Becoming the Best that I Can Be

As human beings we are here to learn, grow, and become the best that we can. Recently Devin and I have been having trouble with Rylee constantly acting out. We constantly have been reaching our limits and getting frustrated with her. Devin came across this blog with a lady who realized her parenting styles made her come off as a bully to her oldest child. Read the post it is quite amazing. I definitely learned that I am not the best parent that I can be. I want to be better not only for myself but for my children.
http://www.handsfreemama.com/2013/12/10/the-bully-too-close-to-home/
Devin and I are full time students, he works full time, and I am a stay at home mother full time, I have a house to keep up on, certifications for school to accomplish on top of a whole semester full of work crammed into 5 weeks, and of course my husband and children. Like this lady said, I had a schedule packed and I did not have time for any bumps or bruises along the way. One thing that stuck out to me is that if Abagail gets hurt either by accident by Rylee or her being her daredevil self. I automatically go to Rylee and she always gets that terrified look. I like this lady's theory about Stopping, and remembering love when approaching a situation whether that is my child acting out or finding out what happened in the playroom.
So last night after Devin read the post to me. We decided to become better for our children, to not feel so crunched with time, and to let go of things having to be perfect. After we opened a new book from under the tree and read as a family it was off to bed for our girls. Rylee of course started to act out saying she wasn't tired and that she did not want to go to bed. We did not get frustrated in trying to calm her down so we can go do homework. Instead we just tucked her in and gave her a kiss ignoring the cries. After a couple minutes of crying I went in there and swept her up into my arms and cuddled with her. She immediately called down and told me Buster (her stuffed dog) fell off her bed. So I picked him up and I told her that I loved her dearly and that it was time for bed. She said okay mommy I love you more. She went to bed last night not fighting for more than an hour. It was so nice and I loved that this article gave me an opening eye. Getting frustrated cause we do not have time to deal with her acting out is not fair to her. I also like how this article said that she felt like she had to have everything perfect. I am similar in that way, I have to have a clean house, I have to have behaved children, etc.

My goal personally to become a better mother is to STOP and thing ONLY LOVE in every thing I need to take action upon. In doing this I will become the person I want to be. A happy, supportive, loving, loved,  mother, wife, and friend.
How are you going to become a better mother?